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Goodbye, No See Ya Later

Category : Life

About this time we are pulling away from what was our home in Michigan for almost 8 years. My wife and I have lived in Michigan our whole lives, and both of our parents still live in Michigan, so moving away is a hard thing for us to do. What would make us move away from our hometown? It isn’t because we don’t love the great state of Saying GoodbyeMichigan or really even the horrible economic downturn it is experiencing. We are moving away because God called me to be a youth pastor when I was a young boy and I am finally being able to see the fulfillment of that calling now.

We are moving down to Ohio because I have accepted the role as youth pastor at The River Church in Liberty Township, OH (near Cincinnati). I have been a youth pastor before, but this is the first time when this will be my full-time occupation. It has been over 15 years since I graduated from Elim Bible Institute, so it has been a long journey. However, every step of the way has been worth it.

The hardest part about this move is leaving all of our friends and family back here in Michigan. We love everyone so much and are so very grateful for all of your love. I do not believe that this will be a goodbye, but more of a “see you later”. We are not moving that far away and will be back to visit. Plus, we are not too far away for people to come visit and we live really close to Kings Island and you are welcome to come visit. :) Or if you are heading south on I-75 make sure you let us know, because we live right off of it and would love to have you stop by for a visit.

There are so many people that I want to express my heartfelt gratitude to for all that you have invested in my life, but I know I will forget someone so I won’t go into it. There are some who have invested in my life and never even realized it.

I am very grateful for the opportunities I have had to invest in the lives of teens while here in Michigan and look forward to being able to do the same thing in Ohio. So to all of you who have been in a youth group that I had the privilege of working with I do want to thank you for letting me invest in your life and for you investing in my life. I probably have learned as much or more from you then you have from me.

My wife and I are now following God where He is calling us. I want to share this video from the Muppets with you as we go.

Overwhelmed

Category : Church, Faith, Life

God's LoveI am feeling so overwhelmed by God’s love for me. We are so blessed to have such great friends and family who love us dearly. A few weeks ago we were singing the song “How Deep the Father’s Love for Us” by Stuart Townend and I was blown away by these words that I have sung several times.

Why should I gain from His reward?
I cannot give an answer
But this I know with all my heart
His wounds have paid my ransom

I know with my whole heart not only that God is very real, but I also know that He sent His Son to the earth to pay the ransom for my sins. As I sang those words I was fighting back tears just thinking about how awesome God is.

My life has not always been easy and I would even daresay that since I became a Christ follower that my life has been even more difficult than before. However, I would not want to change a single thing. I am so much better off for it. I love the fact that God has given me freedom, because it is so much better than the “happiness” that the world was offering me.

This week is going to be kind of crazy for Kimmy and myself. We are having a going away party with some of the people from our church on Thursday, then a going away party with some of the people from the church where I was a youth pastor on Friday, and then a birthday/going away party for our kid’s friends on Saturday. So it will be three straight days of “goodbyes”, but we will still have two weeks left until we actually leave for Cincinnati and our new home on August 10th. We are going to miss everyone and have been so blessed by having all of these friends in our lives.

I am also overwhelmed with how much we have been embraced by the church that we are heading to. I had an idea of the church that we would end up at, but never really thought it would be like this. I know that my family is going to be so blessed and well taken care of by our new church family. I have no fears or worries about me moving my family almost 300 miles south. We have such a peace about this move.

I have also been fortunate because the wonders of social networking websites like Facebook, because it has allowed us to connect with some of our new friends at The River. It is so nice to already begin developing friendships with them before we even move down there.

It really is amazing that when you put your all into God’s hands and trust His guidance for your life that things work out so wonderfully. It may not be the smoothest or easiest path, but it is definitely the best way. Besides who likes to take the easy way anyway? It is so boring and smooth. I prefer the bumps and curves. Just call me a glutton for punishment. :)

You can listen to the song “How Deep the Father’s Love for Us” below.

Living in Poverty

Category : Life

This past weekend I spent the night in a cardboard box and didn’t eat for 30 hours. Why would someone do something like this? I did it because we took the teens at my church through a program called the 30 Hour Famine. On Friday, 8 May 2009, at 10:00a we told all of the teens to stop eating and that on Saturday, 9 May 2009, at 4:00p we would have a feast together, and then we would stay the night at the church by sleeping in cardboard boxes on the front porch. We did this to give all of us a very small taste of what it is like to be homeless.

My BoxI had no problems with the 30 hour fast because I have done a 40 day fast twice before several years ago. The hard part for me was the idea of sleeping outside in a cardboard box. Friday night there was a chance of rain and the nighttime temps were expected to dip into the upper 40′s. People who know me, know that I hate cold weather, so this thought did not thrill me. However, I wanted to simulate homelessness the best I could so I refused to bring a sleeping bag or pillow. Instead I came with two jackets and a hoodie. One of the jackets served as my “pillow” and the other one I wore. I also came with an older, ratty tarp that I had in my garage in case it rained. That is my “home” for the night in the picture on the left.

Fortunately it did not rain but it was cold! I woke up a couple times in the night because I was cold and uncomfortable. All night long and the next day I thought about how hard it must be for homeless people to live like they do and I had it easy because it was for only one night and I had a bathroom nearby. Not to mention that I also had somewhat of a shelter and some homeless people don’t.

But what impacted me more than anything was the poverty simulation that we did on Saturday. The church had coordinated to do this program that Saturday with the teens doing the 30 Hour Famine. There was a sign up for two times, yet there wasn’t enough people to sign up for it to fill up one time slot so they had the teens go through it as well. I am glad they did!

It was really eye opening as to what a person who lives below poverty level has to go through just to survive. The entire program last about three hours with the simulation being only about 1 hour of it, which simulated one month in the life of a real person who lives below the poverty level. Yes, you read that right. Each of these people that we portrayed is a real person who lives in Missouri that the Missouri Association for Community Action has helped out.

I was an 85 year old widower, who owned his own home, but lived on Social Security and had to pay for my mortgage, utilities, groceries, medication and travel. The amount that this man gets in Social Security doesn’t even cover these basic needs, so I had to figure out what resources were out there that could help me. It was a lot harder than I thought! You only get one hour, which represents one month and breaks down to 15 minutes for each week, to try and get all of this done in. As the “weeks” rolled on I found myself getting frustrated by the fact that I had to do this all by myself and other people at least had someone to help them out. I made the mistake of not getting a receipt when I paid my utilities and so the person I paid must have pocketed the money and my utilities got shut off as a result. Otherwise, I was able to accomplish everything I needed to do. But when you have no electricity or heat, does it matter?

I would highly recommend every church to do this poverty simulation. It is really eye opening and will help people to understand in a greater way the poverty problem here in our country. But don’t just do the simulation. Get involved in helping people after you are done.

Why Are You Selling Your House?

Category : Life

Are you moving? Did you get a job? What will you do if you sell your house and have no where to go?

These are the questions that Kimmy and I have been asked quite a lot since we listed our house for sale last week. The simple answers to the questions are:

“No, we are not moving other than in faith.”
“No, I haven’t gotten a job yet.”
“If I don’t have a job and our house sells we will probably move in with my parents for a while.”

The reality is that we are selling our house that we moved into about 7 and a half years ago because we can’t afford to live here much longer with me only collecting unemployment. Plus, we are really believing that I will end up getting a job soon and that will quite likely involve a move out of state. I do not have anything lined up at this time and it is simply a matter of faith, because we believe God is going to open up a door for me to become a youth pastor at a church. As I mentioned in a previous post my wife and I are at peace about this job loss and we have the same peace about selling our house.

The other reality is that now is the best time for us to try to sell our house since a short sale is the only way we can do it and given the current economic climate it is making this time perfect for us to do it. A short sale is basically when you sell your home for less than you owe and the bank forgives the difference. If this goes through our credit will only take a hit for one year and we will not have to pay taxes on the difference that is considered “income”. We bought our house for $141,000 in August of 2001 and it has pretty much dropped in value every year. We currently have it listed for $75,000 and you can see the listing here. It is sad to think that we have essentially only paid rent on our house, which was supposed to be a great investment.

However, we realize that we had a great place that we raised our family in a great neighborhood in a great school district that had a great elementary that my kids attended. So we are very grateful for our time here. We are also excited to think about the fact that someone is going to get an amazing deal on a great house in a wonderful neighborhood to raise their family. So if you are looking for a house check ours out here.

I recently saw this video from Francis Chan and I thought it was very appropriate for what we are going though at this time. I don’t want to just live a safe life. I won’t to be daring enough to impress my Judge.

After watching that video I saw this on someone’s status update on their Facebook page and it kind of rocked my world. It is one of those deep thoughts.

“When everything’s coming your way, you’re in the wrong lane.”

Oatmeal Pancakes

Category : Life

These are really yummy and taste very hearty. Much better than regular pancakes and my kids loved them!

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2 c. quick oats
1/2 t. baking soda
2 1/2 c. buttermilk
1 c. flour
2 t. baking powder
1 t. salt
1 T. sugar
1/3 c. salad oil
2 eggs, beaten

Combine oats, soda. buttermilk. Let stand 5 min. In another bowl combine flour, baking powder, salt, & sugar. Combine oat mixture, oil, & eggs. Add dry ingredients & stir till blended. Cook on lightly greased griddle or skillet.

Yield 14-16 Pancakes.

HT to Nettie’s Kitchen.

Funny Things We Say

Category : Life

The funny things we say can sometimes have a profound impact on people’s lives. Have you ever had someone say something to you that later on you thought about and realized that what that person said to you had some truth to it? I have had that happen a couple of times. I have always said that whenever someone who is a fellow Christ follower says something to you that you really should listen to what they have to say, because you never know when God may be using them to say something profound in your life.

Me and my uber hot wifeMany people have told me that they like how I am always talking about how beautiful my wife is and that they think it is great that I honor her that way. I even have the song “You’re Beautiful” by James Blunt as my ringtone for whenever she calls me on my mobile phone.

What people don’t know is that the reason why I brag so much about my wife is beyond just my genuine love and affection for her. I do it because when I had my first job as a youth pastor there was a 19 year old guy at the church that said one of those funny things to me that later on really hit me hard. He had said to me that it really didn’t seem like we loved one another. My first reaction was to slap to this young punk and ask him who he thought he was to say that to us. However, I then thought about it and realized that if that is what he was seeing then I was doing something wrong.

Sure I could list the excuses of why. Like how we were still young marrieds, we had just had our second child, were entering into a new ministry and job, and that I was working two jobs as well. The reality is though that I was not honoring or giving my wife the love and attention she deserved, so I made a conscience decision from that moment on that no one would ever be able to say that again. In fact, I wanted to make sure that people knew that I was madly in love with my wife and that she meant the world to me, because she does and I love her a lot.

So even though I was angry at that person for what he said when he first said it, I am now grateful that he did say it. Even if it was quite likely said in youthful ignorance, because it was something I needed to hear and I needed to have that course correction in my life journey. Have you ever had an experience where someone said something to you and it had an impact on your life?

Thirty-six or 36 or XXXVI

Category : Life

Baby ToddIt was a Sunday morning 36 years ago and my mom was getting ready to go to church, but I had other plans for her. Instead I wanted to come out and see what all of this hub bub was about. I could hear all these strange sounds and plus I was getting pretty tired of being in the same dark place, so I started making my way out.

It is really hard to believe that 36 years of my life has come and gone. There has been many crazy things that have happened, but I would not change a single one of them for a second. Each moment of my life has been God ordained and has been used to shape me into the man that I am today. I am truly grateful for each moment.

For 13 years of my life I have had the privilege and honor of being married to my beautiful wife, Kimmy, whom I have had 2 wonderful children with. I can honestly say that those 13 years have been the best portion of my life thus far and I know that it will only get better. I look forward to when I have spent a majority of my life with her then I would have had as a single man.

I have gone through many changes physically in my appearance. I was a skinny awkward kid growing up that had way too much energy. I grew into a skinny teenager that did his best to be cool, but failed in many ways. I played football in junior high and then chose to pursue drama in my senior high years. I went from flattop haircuts to growing my hair out long to having the words “WHS Class of 1991″ carved in my head for my graduation.

When I was 17 years old I got my ear pierced and have worn it continuously except for the years when I was in Bible college and couldn’t wear it. (Although I would wear it when I was sleeping or at work. Just don’t tell anyone. :) )

When I graduated from college I decided that I wanted to grow my hair out again, so I began to let it grow until 2000 (6 years). It eventually got down to the middle of my back and then one day I woke up and asked my wife if she wanted to cut my hair. She totally freaked out but did it anyway.

I got my first tattoo when I graduated from Bible college as a gift from my brother. I eventually got another one about 7 or 8 years later and then added to the original one a few years after that. And I prefer to look at them as the stained glass windows on my temple. :)

BaptismsI have served as a youth pastor for 6 years and can’t think of another career that I would ever want to have again. It was a great 6 years and I hope to find another church where I can be a youth pastor and invest my life in the lives of teenagers. To me there is nothing cooler than being able to see a teenager make a choice to do something very profound with their lives and to no longer live for themselves, but instead chose to love God and love others.

I have also gone through many body changes. I at one point ballooned out to about 265 pounds only to decide a few years ago that I had enough and after getting a gym membership, I started eating better and exercising. I went on to drop down to 195 pounds and fit into the same size clothes that I wore when I graduated from high school. I was indeed a big loser. The best part about it all though is that I feel like I am in the best condition of my life. I have run several 5K’s and am looking to possibly running a 10K this year and maybe even participating in a mini-triathlon. So I may be 36, but I certainly don’t feel it.

Here’s to my first 36 years and hopefully another 36+ more years of good living.

Always a Bridesmaid and Never a Bride

Category : Faith, Life

That is how I feel right now. Many of you know that I have been looking for a job in ministry for almost 4 years now and that I have really been looking for almost 15 years, which is when I graduated from Bible college. I have made the final list so many times in these past years that it is really stunning. I can almost write the pastor’s speech to me about how they are going with the other person and that there is nothing they can point to as to why other than they just feel that is the direction that God is leading them in.

The ironic thing about that is that in a majority of these instances these youth pastors are no longer even at those churches and I am still looking. It kind of makes me wonder.

But anyway, here I sit after yet another church that we really felt was “the one” has turned us down yet again for that infamous “other guy”. Kimmy joked last night that if someone wants to be a shoo-in for the position all they would have to do is go up against me. Sadly, that is how I feel at times.

I told Kimmy this morning that I just wish that there was someone whom I really respected and looked up to that would just grab me by the shoulders, look into my eyes and just tell me that I need to give up because I am not cut out for ministry. However, I usually get the exact opposite. Even this most recent pastor told me that he knew I was called to be in ministry, but that they just felt like they needed to go with the “other guy”. Besides that I also know deep down in my heart that God has called me to be in ministry. I have no idea why that door has not opened yet, but I do believe it will. Someday.

People ask me what they can do to help and I joked with one person that they could get me a job in the ministry. But the reality is that there is not much you can do. It is time like this as we grieve yet another loss that what we really need is friends who say things like a dear friend of mine said to me recently.

I know that this is hard, and I don’t have anything to say except that I am sad along side you, and wondering what God is doing. I’m praying that this dry time comes to an end soon, and as we all look back on it we’ll be able to see God loving and leading you step by step.

It reminds me of Job’s friends in the beginning. I know that the pain and grief that Kimmy and I are experiencing cannot be compared with the loss of a loved one or even a miscarriage, but there are some similarities. I have devoted much of my life to being in ministry and it is something that God has placed in me as a young child. My life goal has been pointing towards this and the loss of it feels like the loss of a loved one or a baby, because it has been something that has been with me for a very long time. It is so much more than a job or even a career. It is a calling.

I can relate with the author of the song that I mentioned in my previous post, because I do feel that God is showing up late and I don’t understand why. I feel like I am waiting by that telephone awaiting His call, but He is nowhere to be found. I know He is here right by me and even carrying me through all of this, but sometimes it just doesn’t feel that way.

For now I feel like Tom Hanks’ character in Sleepless in Seattle. “I will get out of bed and breath in and out all day long.” I know God is there and that I will be found by Him right on time.

Is it Okay to be Mad at God?

Category : Life, music

I don’t know if you have seen or heard the Fray’s new song “You Found Me”. You can hear the song below and I also posted the lyrics after it.

I found God on the corner of First and Amistad
Where the west was all but won
All alone smoking His last cigarette
I said where You been, He said ask anything

Where were You when everything was falling apart
All my days were spent by a telephone
That never rang and all I needed was a call
That never came to the corner of First and Amistad

Lost and insecure, You found me, You found me
Lying on the floor, surrounded, surrounded
Why’d You have to wait, where were You, where were You
Just a little late, You found me, You found me

In the end everyone ends up alone
Losing her, the only one who’s ever known
Who I am who I’m not and who I want to be
No way to know how long she will be next to me

Lost and insecure, You found me, You found me
Lying on the floor, surrounded, surrounded
Why’d You have to wait, where were You, where were You
Just a little late, You found me, You found me

Early morning the city breaks and I’ve been calling for years and years
You never left me no messages, You never send me no letters
You got some kind of nerve taking all I want

Lost and insecure, You found me, You found me
Lying on the floor, where were You, where were You
Lost and insecure, You found me, You found me
Lying on the floor, surrounded, surrounded
Why’d You have to wait, where were You, where were You
Just a little late, You found me, You found me
Why’d You have to wait to find me, to find me

They recently played this song on our local Christian radio station and my wife was telling me that after they played it the DJ was talking about how it was kind of a depressing song, and sort of indicated that she (DJ) was shocked that they were playing it. And my wife agreed with her. We were discussing it this morning and she was stating that she felt that it wasn’t the best song just because they should only be playing songs that are a more positive viewpoint of Christianity. And I disagreed.

I stated that I disagreed and that we should give a more honest view of the Christian life, which is not all rosy and sunshiny. Sometimes life really stinks and that God would rather have us be honest with Him than try and hide our feelings, since He knows them anyway. Besides it is Biblical to share your honest feeling with God, even if that means being angry with Him. David did this a lot in the Psalms. Check out: Psalm 13:1-6 (How long, LORD? Will you forget me forever? How long will you hide your face from me?), Psalm 22 (My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? ), Psalm 35:17-18 (How long, Lord, will you look on? Rescue me from their ravages), and Psalm 42:9-11 (Why have you forgotten me?). Don’t those words sound like someone who might be a bit angry with God?

But there is an important thing to remember in all of this and that is found in Ephesians 4:26.

“In your anger do not sin”

I think people need to see Christians as real people and not hiding behind these masks hiding how we really feel. I have many people tell me that what bothers them about Christians is that they are not real. They would rather see Christians admit to their true feelings.

And just because I may get angry with God at times that does not mean that I have abandoned my relationship with Him. Just like when my wife and I get into a disagreement that doesn’t mean that we have fallen out of love with each other. It just means that we have a differing viewpoints.

So I personally do not think that it is wrong to be angry with God and Scripture backs that point up. In fact, I would daresay that it can and will at times help us to build a closer relationship with Him. It is in the struggles of relationship that we can and should find ourselves growing closer together.

So I think that this song by the Fray is a great song to be played on the Christian radio station, because it shows us as real. You can read Isaac Slade’s thoughts on the song here. Being real with God is such an important thing and also very healthy. What do you think?

My Crazy Life

Category : Life

I generally have a crazy life, which I don’t mind but it sure does make for some very interesting times. I love the spontaneity that life can bring and it can even be humorous at times. Like how a little over a week ago I got laid off and how I have spent almost 15 years looking for a full-time ministry position, which still has yet to happen. However, I believe that this lay off may be a partial answer to that prayer and that God was getting us ready for that opportunity.

I have been keeping myself busy since my lay off with sending out resumes and applying for unemployment. I had a friend of mine who’s husband owns a flood restoration business as his side job named Scene Kleen, and they asked me if I could give him a hand while I was laid off so I have been helping him do that. The first house we had to work on was the home of a 91 year old woman, who lived alone. This woman has accumulated 25 years of crap and hardly ever gotten rid of anything. She had a pipe burst in her kitchen and it flooded the kitchen and family room, so we had to clean out those two rooms before we could dry them out.

When we walked into the kitchen, which was the first room we entered, I was shocked! You could hardly walk anywhere and how a 91 year old woman got around without injuring herself is beyond me. There was mice feces on the table and the counter tops along with mouse traps in which the mouse trap on the counter and captured one. I didn’t get any pictures of the kitchen or family room, but I did get some of the hallway and three bedrooms. It is really sad but the house could be really nice for someone to live in when it gets all cleaned out. It took one 40 yard dumpster to clean out the kitchen, family and a portion of the basement that was damaged from the water that came through the floor.

This is the hallway and if you notice you can not get into the back bedrooms, because there is a wall of stuff blocking entry to them.

This is the master bedroom, which is the last room on the right and has not been used in who knows how long.

This is the bedroom we figured she used, because one of the twin beds did not have stuff piled on it. Although you can see that the other one did.

This is the last bedroom on the left, which had probably not been entered in a long time just like the master bedroom.

But my crazy life doesn’t end there. I had been sending my resume out to several churches and I sent one to a church last week Tuesday and was called for an interview on Wednesday. I then received an email from the pastor on Sunday and we are now flying out this weekend for an interview. We are flying out on my wife’s birthday and come back on Tuesday. And that is how crazy my life can be, but I wouldn’t change it for the world. I love the craziness.

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